Last week we acknowledged that all of us have a negative voice that lives inside our minds and is a friend/enemy that constantly swags our emotions and actions.
Who is that voice? Why do we have it? Perhaps we were originally equipped with it to keep us from danger. But now in our modern world, it has become an internal enemy keeping us from becoming all we can be. Did you ever share your ambition with a “friend” just to have them tell you all the reasons not to get too excited because things probably won’t work out? They shoot down your ideas, undermine your confidence and remind you of your limitations. They validate your internal enemy who has already told you the same thing.
The choice then becomes yours – Do I cave and give up? Or do I tell both to shut up and go away? The difference is that you can walk away from the “friend” and stop associating with them, but your inner voice follows you home. It begins replaying the conversation in your head. What is the answer?
At this point you need to do two things:
First, you need to step back and evaluate who you are, who you want to be and what you really, truly want and why. This knowledge is the foundation on which to build your dreams.
I come from the construction world. Years ago, houses at the beach were built on concrete slabs. It was quick and easy. However, when storms came, the houses were destroyed because they were built on sand with nothing to hold them in place. Now drive through any shore community and you see houses on tall pier footings (called helical piers) that don’t stop at the surface of the ground. The footings go deep into the bedrock so that when water rises and winds blow, the house is safe. Taking the time to figure out your core values, passions and beliefs create deep rooted footings on which wise life decisions can be made when life’s changes and storms occur. Take some time to build this firm foundation for yourself.
What is the second step that will turn off your negative voice? You will want to come back next Friday because this simple step is a Game Changer!! In the meantime, write down your core beliefs, what changes you want to make, and what goals you want to achieve.