If someone asked me to name one thing that I am positive about, it would be that life never stays the same. When we talk about finding or being our true selves, it is because our life has changed and we are trying to figure out what that means going forward. Actually, until something unexpected and drastic happens, most people rarely take the time to stop and analyze who they are. We are too busy just living.
We grow older. Our circumstances change. We take on different roles in life. All this has to be navigated without a life GPS. How much easier it would be if we knew where we wanted to end up at the end of our life, plug that information in, and be provided with a step by step guide to navigate all the decisions that come across our paths day to day. It would be even better if the GPS calculated our emotional reaction to change because it is this response that usually trips us up and keeps us from knowing how to move forward.
On top of all that, we all have that nasty little inner voice that validates every doubt, fear and insecurity that we have. You know that voice. It’s the one that tells you that you aren’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, educated enough, or worthy enough. Every time you set out to achieve a goal, whether it is writing a book or finding love, this inner whisper starts shouting and drowns out your confidence. You begin to rationalize that maybe you didn’t really want to do it, it wasn’t that important, maybe it’s not the right time, etc. And each time this happens, your real self grows sad until you stop dreaming, trying and tuning in to your real self.
Who is that voice? Why do we have it?